A gramma's 2 cents
Good Morning everyone.
I have three grandchildren, that are in separate households, all three of the mom's have had meth effect their lives, one continues, one is in denial and one is a part of mom's off meth. It has been a rollercoaster ride, to say the least for all of us.
I came to this site this morning, hoping for a better understanding, for myself and the children.
We are raising one of the grandchildren, mom has not been able to stay off or away from it. SHe hasn't seen her children in over a year. Ran into one this past weekend and didn't recognise her own child standing two feet from her....![Sad [:(]](/Momsboard/emoticons/emotion-6.gif)
Our daughter, who is in denial, has been the hardest road. Last summer there was no doubt that she was still using, even though she denied it. She is now pregnant with her second child and I am praying, not using, she acts like a total different person than she did this summer. But I see things that makes me feel as though this has changed her life forever. she is not the same person that she was as she was growing up. I miss her.
The third one is trying ever so hard, to stay off. She struggles every day. I am proud of her. She has many hurdles to jump, and I know that some are tall and wide. She has my full support and I try so hard to be there for her, just to listen, if nothing else. Some days, I think that is the best that we can do for anyone that we care about.
I am so thankful for mom's off meth. I think that with this so many mom's out there need the support of others that have gone through what they have and really can say, "I understand." and mean it with their heart. I can only say that that I empathize with them and I try to understand, but I am on the other side of the fence, comforting those little ones and my own heart for what this horrible drug has done to so many families.... I just sit here and try to begin to understand how something can be so addictive so quickily and completely. Horrible stuff.
Anyway, I am the other side of the story, the mom that looks at her loved ones struggling with this, holding the grandchildren and comforting them. And when my loved ones let me, holding them and telling them that we love them and we are always here for them. The love never leaves.
Sadly we are forced to choose our grandchildren's care and standing in front of our child and telling them that you choose another over them is one of the hardest things that I have ever done in life. I can only pray that one day they will understand that is probably the best thing that I could of done for them at that point. Was to make sure the child that they loved was taken care of, until they could take care of themeselves, and their child. It does not happen without regrets, let me assure you. The last thing I ever expected to do was to raise my grandchild, and watch my children struggle.
Anyway, hope that you don't mind hearing a gramma's point of view and her asking some questions to understand better.